Anna & Esther: Companionship, Grief and the Healing Power of Presence

ā€œCompassionate grief support inspired by the quiet presence of Esther the Saint Bernard.ā€

  • MSW student (Liberty University)
  • MA in Thanatology (CUNY Brooklyn College)
  • Thanatology & community health professional
  • Volunteer bereavement support caller (Accent Care Hospice)
  • Trained end-of-life doula
  • Working toward grief & bereavement therapist licensure
  • Guided by compassion, dignity, and the belief that no oneā€”human or animalā€”should face death alone

šŸ¾ Unit 4: The Team Evaluation; Growing Together with Esther

During training walks, I focus on maintaining calm and steady energy so Esther can mirror that confidence, an essential skill for therapy visits in busy environments.
Understanding the Evaluation

As Esther and I continue our Pet Partners handler course, Unit 4, The Team Evaluation, stands out as one of the most critical steps in our journey toward becoming a registered therapy team.

This module outlines how Pet Partners evaluates both the handler and the animal as a team, focusing not only on the animalā€™s temperament but also on how well the handler supports and advocates for them during various scenarios.

Real-Life Scenarios and Teamwork

The evaluation is designed to simulate real-life situations we might encounter during visits, whether in hospice, hospitals, schools, or community settings.

Itā€™s a moment to demonstrate confidence, teamwork, and calm under pressure. Exercises include interactions such as:

  • Clumsy petting
  • Loud noises
  • Sudden gestures
  • Being crowded by multiple people

These moments test how both handler and animal respond together; something Iā€™ve been practicing with Esther during her private training sessions.

Esther practices staying calm during a ā€œcrowded pettingā€ exercise with her trainersā€”a key part of the Pet Partners evaluation that prepares her for real-life therapy visits filled with unexpected sounds, movements, and emotions.
Estherā€™s Gentle Strength

For Esther, who weighs 165 pounds, being calm and steady during unpredictable moments is essential.

One of the exercises, Staggering and Gesturing Individual, mimics someone who is unsteady or emotional approaching her. The goal is for her to stay relaxed and confident while I manage the situation with empathy and control.

Another scenario, Crowded and Petted by Several People, tests how well she can tolerate attention from multiple hands while I monitor her body language and help her stay comfortable.

Focused and gentle, Esther showing her best therapy dog manners.
Building Trust and Communication

What I love about the Pet Partners approach is that it doesnā€™t just evaluate the animal, it evaluates the relationship.

The assessment reflects the level of trust and communication between handler and animal. Iā€™ve learned that proactive handling; anticipating Estherā€™s reactions and supporting her before she feels stressed, is key to our success.

The better I understand her signals, the more I can help her shine as the gentle giant she is.

I am guiding Esther, my Saint Bernard therapy dog in training, up the stairs during a practice session. Each step builds Estherā€™s confidence and teamwork for real-world therapy visits.

Connection Over Perfection

Ultimately, the team evaluation isnā€™t about perfection; itā€™s about connection.

Itā€™s a reminder that Esther and I are learning together, and that my calm, encouraging energy directly shapes her confidence in new environments. Whether we pass on the first try or need more practice, I see this process as another step toward sharing her love and comfort with others in hospice and end-of-life settings.

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